Article Bookmarked
Bookmark Removed

Why Less is More


Feb. 17, 2016 The Generous Husband

I’ve always had a lot of stuff. Bins and boxes and drawers full of stuff. Stuff crammed into closets and stacked in any spare corner. I wouldn’t say I was a hoarder, but I had plenty of things I didn’t use and didn’t need.

The last few years I’ve been working on having less. I bought into the idea of minimalism in theory, but actually living it wasn’t happening very quickly. Then we moved into an RV with 303 sq. ft. (28 sq. mt.) of space. That’s less space than the rather small one car garage we had in our last home! Minimalism went from being a nice theory to a necessity of life. 

Clutter has been an ongoing issue in our marriage. Early on I had no idea how much it bothered Lori. It didn’t bother me, so I had no empathy for her suffering. Even when I gained some understanding, I didn’t realize how much it cost her.

Now that we live with far less I’ve started to see things differently. There is now less clutter, but I’m much more aware of it. I think there used to be so much I just tuned it out. Perhaps it overwhelmed me so I just ignored it. Now I see it. Not as much as Lori, but I really do see it – and it bothers me! I clean up because I see a mess and don’t want it there – something I never did before. I sometimes go get the broom and sweep the floor because I’m aware it needs to be swept. In the past, I occasionally swept because I knew a dirty floor bothered Lori, but I was rarely aware enough of the need to do it.

Part of the reason for the change is doing cleaning is no longer a huge undertaking. The floor for the kitchen, dining room, living room and office combined is 13′ by 8′ (4m by 2.5m) and it takes very little time to sweep it well. Dishes don’t pile up because there’s no place for them to pile up. Some things get washed before the meal is on the table, the rest right after. I suspect I often didn’t do things in the past because the time and effort required were beyond what I thought I had. I was overwhelmed by the scope of the mess so I just ignored it.

Read More on The Generous Husband

Gene Upshaw Player Assistance Trust Fund

Apply Today

All Resources

Tell Me More

The Secret to Being More Charming (Without Being Obnoxious)

Displaying authentic charm is easier than you think.

Read More

How to Successfully Shift From “Work Mode” to “Family Mode”

There are no easy answers. But there are several best practices to employ.

Read More

25 Pieces of Marriage Advice From Couples Who’ve Been Together 25+ Years

What keeps a relationship going for the long haul?

Read More

How to Overcome Feelings of Shame about Personal Debt

Debt can get the best of anyone, but it's important to act.

Read More

How to Get an Emergency Loan if You Have Bad Credit

Options are available but you need to be cautious.

Read More

3 Simple Strategies to Boost Your Brain Health Today

Science-backed tactics to quickly improve cognitive and mental health.

Read More

4 Principles to Develop Next-Level Leadership at Your Company

Take ownership and think innovatively.

Read More

Why Acupuncture Is Going Mainstream in Medicine

One surprising shift due to the opioid epidemic.

Read More