The top 10 complaints from unhappy wives

In 2013, men spent almost 10 hours per week on chores, while women spent 18. Although that’s an improvement from the ’60s when men devoted four hours to women’s 30-plus, the discrepancy is still annoying—and exhausting. The best way to ensure your husband pulls his weight is to be specific about what you want—kid cleanup, dinner prep, laundry loading—and let him do it his way.

“If you stand over him, telling him how to do everything, he’ll back off because it’ll seem like it’s easier to just let you handle it,” says Charles J. Orlando, a relationship expert and author of “The Problem With Women… Is Men.”

And remember, chores don’t need to be divided down the middle to be equal. If he excels at dinner prep but isn’t so great at getting the kids ready in the a.m., it may be easier if you take on that project solo with the understanding that he’ll have food on the table after work.