Article Bookmarked
Bookmark Removed

The Museum of You


Oct. 30, 2021 Psychology Today

We may think about our most memorable experiences but less often about memorable objects. Those can illuminate who we were and perhaps are.

What would the Museum of You include? It may help to think of any old things you still have or that your parents are keeping for you.

Start with the first object of emotional significance that you can recall. Recent research finds that most people’s first recollections start in toddlerhood, earlier than previously thought. Do your first-recalled objects say anything about what mattered or still matters to you? For example, if an early memory is of hugging a teddy bear, that could foreshadow that affection is primary to that person. If a person’s earliest memory is of sneaking into the cookie jar after the parent said, “No more cookies!” that might hint of an incipient rebellious or even dishonest nature.

Now move on to your school years. Maybe you recall a friendship note from a classmate. Or the AAA TripTik from the family driving vacation to Niagara Falls. My favorite possession was a big hi-fi speaker. It was the first big thing I bought from saving up from my allowance. It signified how important music was to me and still is. It also presaged that I’m comfortable in delaying gratification. 

Here are some examples from adulthood that might help evoke important items from your life.

From young adulthood: that dyed T-shirt, basketball uniform, your only A+ on a paper, a picture of or love letter from your college sweetheart, your college transcript, the trophy from finishing second in a road rally, a memento from that study-abroad program.

Later on: Your wedding ring even if you divorced, your first offer letter of employment, your best performance review or worst one—a wake-up call, a meaningful thank-you letter, the book you choose to reread. One of my favorites is the tiny toy rat that sits at the base of my computer monitor. I had an actual rat that was scurrying around at night in my attic and told a client about it. When she returned from a business trip to Beijing, she brought me that toy rat. I keep it not just because it was funny, although it was, but because the client liked me enough to search it out for me on her business trip.

So, as you look at your Museum of You, do you find any common threads, perhaps that say something about your essence? Or your aspirations?

Now think about what common things you excluded from your Museum of You: Those pertaining to travel? Family? Work? Romance? Recreation? Materialistic items? What does that say about you?

Finally, do you want to assemble those items in one place, an actual Museum of You?

Read More on Psychology Today

Gene Upshaw Player Assistance Trust Fund

Apply Today

All Resources

Tell Me More

Why February Is a Better Month for Resolutions

We must look back before looking forward and ask ourselves these questions.

Read More

Aging Men and Irrelevance: How to Find New Purpose

Just how is a man supposed to look inside, anyhow?

Read More

Have a 'Happy New Year' by Not Searching for Happiness

Stop chasing happiness and start looking for meaning.

Read More

Mental Health Expectations in a Post(?)-Pandemic World

Research and pandemic-related treatment may hold some answers

Read More

Early cardiovascular disease may speed up cognitive decline in middle age

More connections between the brain and body

Read More

Budgeting to Get Out of Debt

Your clear first step to financial improvement

Read More

Your Team Doesn’t Need You to Be the Hero

xxx

Read More

How To Be A Man According To 15 Dads

"What's the most important lesson you want to teach your son about being a man?"

Read More