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The Key to Confidence


Apr. 8, 2016 M46 Project

I love what Hebrews 10:35 tells us about confidence, “Cast not away your confidence, which has great recompence of reward.” The amplified translation says, “Do not, therefore, fling away your fearless confidence, for it carries a great and glorious compensation of reward.”

Wow! Think about that for a moment.

Confidence carries with it a glorious compensation! All we have to do is to not throw it away in the face of adversity.

As easy as that may sound, it is a lot easier said than done. Especially when the stakes are high, and the obstacles appear insurmountable.

Our capacity to maintain our confidence is embedded in our upbringing as a child, and the affirmation we may or may not have had the chance to experience in life.

This is why parents, mentors and coaches are so important in children’s lives. They are the ones who should be cultivating confidence in the heart’s and minds of children.

I’m so appreciative of my high school football coach, Joe D’Angelo (Coach D), who had more confidence in my ability as a football player, than I did in myself. And who constantly put me in position to experience success until I believed that I was as good as he thought.

I developed confidence in his confidence in me!

Just because you may be gifted in an area, doesn’t mean that you are automatically confident to do it. Many people find themselves stuck, or paralyzed at key moments, or find that they are constantly second guessing themselves.

As a leader, you can’t afford to cast away your confidence. And you have the responsibility to cultivate confidence in those you lead.

Here are 3 keys to help you walk with confidence.

Key #1: No Negative Self-Talk.
“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” How you perceive yourself will determine everything. Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you can’t…you’re right.” If you struggle with negative self-talk, ask yourself where do the negative thoughts come from? Who told you that you won’t succeed? Many times people that we love or that we look up to have said or done things that have caused us to doubt ourselves. I encourage you to take a step back, and assess who are the people in your life that are adding life and value into you, versus the people in your life that are draining life out of you. We all need people that will love us unconditionally, and will infuse us with confidence when we need it.

Key #2: Never accept the thought of defeat.
“Failure begins the moment the thought of failure is acceptable.” Remember, it’s difficult overcome your thought life! I remember talking to a NFL cornerback who played signed with the Browns this year, but had spent his career in Green Bay previously. We talked about the difference between the two teams, and there was one thing that he said stood out that made the difference in winning or losing. It was confidence! He said when he was in Green Bay, if the other team scored, the team wouldn’t back down to the challenge and believed they would find a way to win. He said the Browns were still learning how overcome the thoughts of, “Oh, here we go again”, when faced with adversity in the game.

How do you handle adversity? Do you find yourself giving in at the first sign of adversity? Or do you have a focus that though you may not win every time, you are not going to quit…EVER?

Key #3: Trust the training.
Coach Marvin Lewis from the Cincinnati Bengals is quoted saying, “No man fears that which he knows he does well.” This is so true! Do you know of any good auto mechanics who get scared when someone brings them a car to fix…or a doctor or a nurse who is scared to treat a patient…how about a coach who is scared to call a play during a game? Of course not! They know that their preparation and training will assist them in making decisions in the heat of the moment.

The problem comes if there is no training to rely on. This is why M46 Project exists! To help give you tools and skills to trust in the heat of the moment when leading your family.

The training gives you the spiritual, emotional, and physical stamina to endure. Trust the training, and stay confident!

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