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Feelings or Principles…What Guides You?


Dec. 20, 2017 Freddie Scott

How many times have you allowed your emotions to get you in trouble? Either you said something you shouldn’t have said, or did something out of anger or the “heat of the moment” that you later regretted.

We have all have regrets as a result of our emotions. The problem many people make when it comes to accomplishing goals, is that they allow their feelings to dictate what they do, when they do it, and how they do it.

Emotions are powerful. They are keys to understanding how you are processing the world around you, and what’s going on within you. Though it’s important to know what you feel, it’s also important to not allow your emotions take control of you and keep you from making progress toward your goals.

Remember, at the end of your feelings is nothing, at the end of principles is a promise. Begin by focusing on principles that will guide your life, regardless of how you feel, and you will see more success.

Here are some ways to be led by your principles, and not your feelings.

  1. Count to 10. Sometimes we get ourselves in trouble for saying or doing something too quickly. By taking time to count to 10, you give yourself a chance to compose yourself and think of what you really want to say or do. The more you discipline yourself to control your emotions, the more intentional you will be with your words and actions.
  2. Vent when necessary. Your emotions can be like an emotional volcano! If you are not careful, you can allow things to build up until they erupt. Make sure you take the time to vent with people you can trust to release some tension.
  3. Take time to work out. Never allow your life to be so busy that you don’t take the time to take care of yourself. Take time to go for a run, lift weights, or play a sport. You will not only be taking care of yourself, but also giving yourself the chance to release a lot of stress.
  4. Take time to have fun. Most people don’t use all of their vacation time throughout the year. It can be easy to get so busy that you forget to schedule time off. It could be helpful to begin the year by scheduling the days off that you want. Start with important birthdays, school vacations, and anniversary’s. It’s easier to take the time once its scheduled, rather than trying to find time at the end of the year.
  5. Change your emotional channel. If you learn to control your thoughts, you will learn how to control your life. Your thoughts dictate your emotions, your emotions dictate your words, and your words dictate your actions. I love what Philippians 4:8 says, “Whatsoever things are true, just, pure, lovely, or of a good report, think on these things.” Learn to think of things that will help you accomplish your personal, relationship, and career goals. You have the power to change your thoughts when necessary.

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