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Enabling your children can weaken your marriage


Jun. 1, 2015 Engaged Marriage

When Kansas farm girl Dorothy closed her eyes and murmured longingly, “There’s no place like home, there’s no place like home!” she was speaking as a twelve year old who had come to recognize the true magic of home, not as a young adult comfortably and seemingly permanently ensconced under your roof.

Home is a wonderful place, and it’s no surprise that millennials find the idea of moving back in—or never leaving—appealing.

Certainly there can be healthy arrangements for adult children and families living under one roof based on respect, gratitude, and good communication.

However, if you are ready to throw your door open wide in the spirit of financial helpfulness, or if you already have, you’ll want to be vigilant so you don’t weaken your marriage.

How do you know if you are helping or enabling?

  • Helping is doing something for someone else that they are not capable of doing for themselves.
  • Enabling is doing things for someone else that they can and should be doing for themselves.

Click “Read More” to learn about how you may be enabling and how it affects your marriage.

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