As the new year approaches, many of us will resolve to transform our bodies — but what about our minds?
Giving ourselves a mental makeover could be just as important as giving ourselves a physical one. But accomplishing that doesn’t just lie in changing our thoughts — it’s also dependent on changing our words.
How we speak — to others and to ourselves — has a huge impact on our overall outlook. So isn’t it about time we started paying more attention to what we’re communicating?
Below are 15 phrases that will transform the way you think, feel and act in the coming year. Using your words to change your life? Now that’s a resolution worth keeping.
It’s among the smallest of words, but it suggests the biggest of manners — which, quite honestly, need to make a comeback. There are a host of benefits that come with practicing good manners, from increasing social connection to helping you unplug. And think about it: Are you more likely to fulfill a favor if someone asks you nicely? There’s power in “please.”
It’s a simple word, but it could help you get what you want. According to research published in the new book Magic Words: The Science and Secrets Behind Seven Words That Motivate, Engage, and Influence, those who reasoned with “because” in a sentence were more likely to receive what they asked for than those who made a request without the word.
For example, when asking to cut a line, study participants who said, “Excuse me, I have five pages. May I use the Xerox machine because I’m in a rush?” were given more access than those who didn’t give a reason for their request. Why? Because science says so.
According to Binghamton University research, only a third of people accept a compliment graciously, Psychology Today reported. It’s no secret that many of us get squeamish when receiving compliments — and as a result, the response is usually laced with self-deprecating humor that brushes off a genuine statement. Saying “thank you” not only acknowledges the other person’s kind words, but hopefully it’ll help you believe them, too.